Blog Archive
Every post we've published, newest first
2026
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A Conditional Home
Vanessa Rae ·
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Daughter of an Absent DJ
Vanessa Rae ·
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When Stability Wasn't Enough
Vanessa Rae ·
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Totem Newsletter! July
Heather (she/her) ·
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Community Care, Reimagined
Heather (she/her) ·
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Totem Newsletter: June!
Heather (she/her) ·
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Fuck, Not Again
Vanessa Rae ·
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Twirl
Vanessa Rae ·
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Where the Hell is the Village?
Heather (she/her) ·
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That Time ChatGPT Became My Therapist
Vanessa Rae ·
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The Sacred Pause ;
Heather (she/her) ·
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All The Love You Find Wrapped in Pain: Parenting a Child with Cerebral Palsy
Heather (she/her) ·
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Finish Your Food
Vanessa Rae ·
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How I Turned Anger Into Action: My Journey Into Advocacy
Jesse ·
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21 Self-Discovery Questions to Reconnect with Your Authentic Self
Vanessa Rae ·
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How to Find Your Core Values (and Actually Live by Them)
Vanessa Rae ·
2025
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How I Stopped Hating My Body: A Story of Community Healing
Heather (she/her) ·
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How to Communicate Boundaries Without Guilt: A Guide to Clear, Confident Communication
Vanessa Rae ·
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5 Practical Steps to Set Healthy Personal Boundaries and Keep Them
Vanessa Rae ·
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Karen and the Collective Shadow: Outrage, Entitlement, and Empathy
Vanessa Rae ·
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When Pain Pressed Play: The Teen Dating Violence Chapter
Claire (she, her) ·
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How to Enforce Boundaries When They're Tested; Your Action Plan for Maintaining Respect
Vanessa Rae ·
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Beyond Fight or Flight: How Freeze and Fawn Trauma Responses Shape Your Life
Vanessa Rae ·
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10 Healthy Boundaries That Protect Your Mental Health and Relationships
Vanessa Rae ·
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Ten Years of Pain
Heather (she/her) ·
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When Pain Pressed Play: The First Time I'm Telling My Story
Claire (she, her) ·
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I'm Not a Crybaby
Vanessa Rae ·
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BetterHelp Group Therapy vs. Totem Spaces: Which Digital Healing Community Is Right for You?
Vanessa Rae ·
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How to Spot an Energy Vampire and Protect Your Peace
Vanessa Rae ·
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BetterHelp Group Therapy vs. Totem Spaces: What Kind of Group Support Are You Really Looking For?
Vanessa Rae ·
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When Therapy Speak Goes Too Far: How Therapy-Speak Is Turning Everyday Conflict Into Trauma
Vanessa Rae ·
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The Dream You Think I'm Living
Vanessa Rae ·
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53 Powerful Healing Quotes for Her: Soothing Words for Difficult Times
Vanessa Rae ·
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Grounding Kits: Your Portable Anchor When Anxiety Hits
Vanessa Rae ·
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How to Stop Hating Yourself: Rewire Your Brain with Affirmations and Self-Compassion
Vanessa Rae ·
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Shadow Work for Beginners: How to Start Healing the Parts of You That Feel Hard to Explain
Vanessa Rae ·
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Choosing Between Online Support Groups and Therapy: What’s Right for You?
Vanessa Rae ·
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How to Avoid Over-Apologizing: A Complete Guide to Reclaiming Your Confidence
Vanessa Rae ·
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Beyond the Blackpill: Finding Authentic Masculinity in a Cynical World
Vanessa Rae ·
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How to Stop People-Pleasing: Stop Saying Yes When You Mean No
Vanessa Rae ·
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Totem Goes to Jail: The Women at Buncombe County
Heather (she/her) ·
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Talk to Yourself: Transform Your Mornings with Mantras
Vanessa Rae ·
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20 Quotes on Being Present to Inspire Mindfulness in 2025
Vanessa Rae ·
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Unhealthy Boundaries in Relationships: 9 Signs it's Affecting Your Mental Health
Vanessa Rae ·
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Discover the Healing Power of Online Support Groups: A Totem Spaces Guide
Vanessa Rae ·
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Is Your Narcissistic Mother Still Impacting Your Life? 7 Signs and How to Heal
Vanessa Rae ·
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Is Self Sabotage Ruining Your Relationship? 5 Signs and How to Fix Them
Vanessa Rae ·
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20 Body Positivity Quotes to Boost Your Self-Esteem
Vanessa Rae ·