Meet Our Newest Keepers!
We have two new faces at Totem, and two brand new Spaces to go with them.
Meet Anthony
Anthony has visited 30 countries, gone cage diving with great white sharks in South Africa, won his 8th grade spelling bee, and somehow has had every bike he has ever owned stolen.
He’ll be leading The Roots of Who We Are, a weekly Space about the experiences, relationships, challenges, and formative years that helped shape us into the people we are today.
The Roots of Who We Are
Sundays at 5 PM ET
Meet Allison
Allison is a certified mindfulness teacher and spent a decade as a psychology professor. She loves gardening, paddleboarding, and took up pole dancing at 34 as her first formal dance experience.
She’ll be leading Relationships Reimagined, a weekly Space for exploring how we connect, communicate, relate to one another, and rethink some of the ideas we have inherited about relationships.
Relationships Reimagined
Tuesdays at 7 PM ET
We’re so excited to have Anthony and Allison joining our Keeper team. Come say hello, grab a seat in one of their Spaces, and get to know them for yourself.
Check out all our upcoming Spaces below!
New!
Our First Audio-Only Space
We’ve heard from people in our community who want the connection of a Totem Space without the pressure of being on camera, so we’re trying something new.
Reading Ourselves Through Tarot is our first-ever audio-only Space, led by Vanessa Rae. Cameras stay off, and each session uses a Tarot card as a jumping-off point for conversations about the very human stuff underneath it: attachment, control, change, risk, solitude, the patterns we repeat, and the parts of ourselves we’re still trying to understand.
No Tarot knowledge required. Just show up, listen, and share when you want to.
The first session, The Devil and What Keeps Us Tethered, meets October 15 at 9 PM ET.
Come Hang With Us!
Los Angeles
L.A. Comic Con
We’ve been keeping something under wraps, and we’re finally ready to share it.
Totem will be at LA Comic Con promoting our new game, The Shape of Us. If you’re there, come find us, say hi, and get an early look at what we’ve been working on.
We’re very excited to finally let this one out into the world.
A Totem Story
Totem has been life changing for me. The mother space is so unlike any parenting group I have ever found. I found so much in common with other mothers, not by desperately searching for it, but by hearing the same raw experiences and perspectives come from other mouths, which gave me permission to feel the full spectrum of emotion in parenting I had previously felt ashamed of.
In a time where my full focus and that of everyone around me was on my children, Totem gave me a space to remember my own values, consider my own well-being, and rediscover my own thoughts.
Heather has put so much intention and passion into the questions and leads us not as an outsider but as a fellow traveler in motherhood. Each space I attended reminded me that I was a person separate from mothering, which truly helped me overcome postpartum depression and made me not just a better mother but a better human being.
Cory S.
New on the Blog!
A Conditional Home
Have you ever had a place you could go, but still weren’t sure it was really home?
In our latest blog, Vanessa writes about being a teenager caught between two homes, sitting across the street from the place she wanted to return to, and feeling completely alone.
Years later, she reflects on what that experience taught her about belonging, conditional love, and why creating a place for people to land still matters so much to her.
Web App Feedback
As we continue rolling out the web app, your feedback helps us make it better.
If something feels confusing, glitchy, or just a little off, we want to hear about it.
Keep Totem Accessible
Our mission at Totem is to keep emotional support and mental health care accessible to everyone. That’s why we don’t charge for our Spaces.
If Totem has supported you, moved you, or helped someone you love feel a little less alone, we invite you to make a donation. Every gift helps us keep these Spaces free and open to the people who need them.
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