Find your people.
Share your story.
I was nervous about joining my first Space, but within minutes I felt like I was talking to old friends. The Keeper made everyone feel safe to share.
Totem helped me realize I wasn't alone in my struggles. Hearing others share similar experiences was incredibly validating.
It's not therapy, and that's what I needed. Just real people listening and sharing without judgment. I look forward to my Space every week.
It's like yoga for your brain.
I've become better at expressing myself and setting boundaries.
As a licensed mental health counselor, it is rare to find spaces where people can show up and create community without cost or commitment.
Totem is my people. They gave me the strength to keep it real.
I was nervous about joining my first Space, but within minutes I felt like I was talking to old friends. The Keeper made everyone feel safe to share.
Totem helped me realize I wasn't alone in my struggles. Hearing others share similar experiences was incredibly validating.
It's not therapy, and that's what I needed. Just real people listening and sharing without judgment. I look forward to my Space every week.
It's like yoga for your brain.
I've become better at expressing myself and setting boundaries.
As a licensed mental health counselor, it is rare to find spaces where people can show up and create community without cost or commitment.
Totem is my people. They gave me the strength to keep it real.
I was nervous about joining my first Space, but within minutes I felt like I was talking to old friends. The Keeper made everyone feel safe to share.
Totem helped me realize I wasn't alone in my struggles. Hearing others share similar experiences was incredibly validating.
It's not therapy, and that's what I needed. Just real people listening and sharing without judgment. I look forward to my Space every week.
It's like yoga for your brain.
I've become better at expressing myself and setting boundaries.
As a licensed mental health counselor, it is rare to find spaces where people can show up and create community without cost or commitment.
Totem is my people. They gave me the strength to keep it real.
I was nervous about joining my first Space, but within minutes I felt like I was talking to old friends. The Keeper made everyone feel safe to share.
Totem helped me realize I wasn't alone in my struggles. Hearing others share similar experiences was incredibly validating.
It's not therapy, and that's what I needed. Just real people listening and sharing without judgment. I look forward to my Space every week.
It's like yoga for your brain.
I've become better at expressing myself and setting boundaries.
As a licensed mental health counselor, it is rare to find spaces where people can show up and create community without cost or commitment.
Totem is my people. They gave me the strength to keep it real.
Find a Conversation That Speaks to You
Explore conversations about relationships, identity, motherhood, personal growth, and everything that makes us human. Find a Space where you can connect, reflect, and feel heard.
LGBTQIA+
A safe space for LGBTQIA+ individuals to share experiences and find community.
Love and Other Emotions
Explore relationships, heartbreak, and the full spectrum of human emotion.
For Mommas
Connect with other moms navigating the challenges and joys of parenthood.
Personal Growth
Work on personal growth, habits, and self-discovery with others on the same journey.
How Spaces Work
A Totem Space is an online peer support group centered on a topic. Each scheduled session is a free, hour-long conversation guided by a trained facilitator called a Keeper. Everyone takes turns speaking or passing while others listen, without interruptions or unsolicited advice.
Small Groups, Big Connections
Each Space has 3-8 people, creating an intimate environment where everyone has time to share and be heard.
Guided by Trained Keepers
Every Space is facilitated by a trained Keeper who creates a safe, supportive environment for sharing.
Peer Support, Not Therapy
We're not therapists—we're people helping people through storytelling and shared experience.
Safe and Confidential
Everyone agrees to keep what's shared confidential. Totem reinforces this expectation through its community guidelines.
Flexible Scheduling
Join Spaces that fit your schedule. New sessions are offered weekly across different topics.
Frequently Asked Questions
Everything you need to know about Totem and how Spaces work.
Yes! We don't mind if you don't use your real name. You'll need to provide an email for moderation purposes, but other participants won't see your real identity. We do ask that you share authentically during Spaces.
Totem has a zero-tolerance policy against discussing what happens in groups outside the platform—violators face permanent removal. Video call communications are encrypted, so only Space participants can hear your shares.
No, it isn't. While some prefer Totem to traditional therapy, it is not a replacement for traditional one-on-one therapy. However, it can complement existing therapy and deepen your therapeutic work.
Generally no. Keepers facilitate and ensure safety rather than provide professional clinical guidance. They participate as regular members and don't offer therapeutic advice.
Totem is completely free. We're a 501(c)(3) non-profit organization dedicated to making peer support accessible to everyone.
Ready to Find Your Space?
Explore upcoming sessions, choose a conversation that speaks to you, and reserve your spot for free.
