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Healthy Boundaries Series

A 6 Week Series

About this Space

Personal boundaries aren’t walls that isolate—they’re bridges that allow authentic connection.

Then why do we often find ourselves nodding "yes" when our hearts scream "no"? Why do we let fear—fear of conflict, rejection, or being labeled "difficult"—keep us from expressing our wants and needs?

The truth is, many of us don't even know what a boundary is, nor were we given a blueprint on how they work.

As a result, our boundaries are unknowingly shaped by a series of experiences, from childhood to the present.

The good news? We can break free from learned, unhealthy boundaries by bringing awareness to our personal preferences, desires, limits, and deal-breakers.

Join us for six weeks of discovery, challenge, and growth as we explore healthier ways to honor ourselves by bringing our personal boundaries into awareness.

By recognizing our needs and valuing our worth, we can establish boundaries that protect us while allowing for genuine connection.

  • Week 1: What are Boundaries?
  • Week 2: Childhood Lessons and Fear of Saying "No"
  • Week 3: Our Personal Preferences and Desires
  • Week 4: Our Limits and Deal Breakers
  • Week 5: Violation Recognition
  • Week 6: Communicating Boundaries with Clarity

We will be meeting Tuesdays, for one hour weekly for six weeks. Please join only if you can attend at least 3 sessions

Limited seats available—reserve yours today!

Setting healthy boundaries for ourselves is challenging, especially when we haven't been given models for how they work. While it may take longer than six weeks, our series is a safe, supportive space where we can start making lasting changes together.

Meet the Keeper

Vanessa is a Los Angeles-based artist and recovering hot mess. She's spent a good portion of her life getting in her own way, navigating depression, a complicated relationship with alcohol, and the many creative ways we convince ourselves we're fine when we're anything but.

Along the way, she's learned that …

Reach out to the Keeper: vanessa@totem.org
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