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☁️ I'm Not Okay

...and that's okay

About this Space

⚠️ Disclaimer Not for crisis support: If you’re in crisis or considering harming yourself, please reach out immediately to your local emergency services or a suicide prevention hotline (U.S. dial 988 or findhelpline.com or crisis resources)

☁️ We feel how heavy each breath can be when the world is asking you to “just be fine."

This is a Space for the gray, in between moments. You're allowed to show up with the nameless sadness, the low-grade numbness, the quiet ache that never quite becomes a crisis but still pulls at you.

I'm Not Okay is for anyone who:

  • Feels like no one understands
  • Doesn't want to burden the ones closest to them
  • Needs a safe place to process their emotions without having to justify them
  • Is embarassed by their emotions
  • Has a hard time finding the words to explain

Types of prompts we'll gently explore together

  • If your heart could speak, what would it tell you today?
  • What’s been running through your mind on repeat lately?
  • What’s one small need you haven’t given yourself permission to ask for?”
  • When was the last moment—however small—that you felt even a flicker of relief?

Life is hard.
🖤 Let's talk about it 🖤

Meet the Keeper

Vanessa is a Los Angeles-based artist and recovering hot mess. She's battled many challenges, from undiagnosed depression to struggling with alcohol abuse, and knows first hand how hard it is to face complex emotions alone.

Through her personal evolution, she's learned how to take action in her life, transforming negative …

Reach out to the Keeper: vanessa@totem.org
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