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☁️ I'm Not Okay

...and that's okay

About this Space

⚠️ Disclaimer Not for crisis support: If you’re in crisis or considering harming yourself, please reach out immediately to your local emergency services or a suicide prevention hotline (U.S. dial 988 or findhelpline.com or crisis resources)

☁️ We feel how heavy each breath can be when the world is asking you to “just be fine."

This is a Space for the gray, in between moments. You're allowed to show up with the nameless sadness, the low-grade numbness, the quiet ache that never quite becomes a crisis but still pulls at you.

I'm Not Okay is for anyone who:

  • Feels like no one understands
  • Doesn't want to burden the ones closest to them
  • Needs a safe place to process their emotions without having to justify them
  • Is embarassed by their emotions
  • Has a hard time finding the words to explain

Types of prompts we'll gently explore together

  • If your heart could speak, what would it tell you today?
  • What’s been running through your mind on repeat lately?
  • What’s one small need you haven’t given yourself permission to ask for?”
  • When was the last moment—however small—that you felt even a flicker of relief?

Life is hard.
🖤 Let's talk about it 🖤

Meet the Keeper

Vanessa is a Los Angeles-based artist and recovering hot mess. She's spent a good portion of her life getting in her own way, navigating depression, a complicated relationship with alcohol, and the many creative ways we convince ourselves we're fine when we're anything but.

Along the way, she's learned that …

Reach out to the Keeper: vanessa@totem.org
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