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When Loving Ourselves Feels Hard

💛 Self-Love Sanctuary
Starting Jul 07, 2025 11PM UTC

About this Session

Sometimes it's hard to admit we don't love ourselves.

Today's Space is about gently releasing those thoughts in a safe environment. Together, we’ll balance them by acknowledging the parts of ourselves we do love—no matter how big or small.

About this Space

One of my all-time favorite quotes comes from the illustrious empowerment guru himself, RuPaul: "If you can't love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else? Can I get an amen?"

Whether you're just starting your self-love journey or need gentle reminders, Self-Love Sanctuary offers a judgment-free space to explore the many facets of ourselves.

We'll discuss the parts of of ourselves we love, how to love the parts that need a little more tending to, and how to let go of negative ideas of ourselves we hang onto.


If you're interested in Self-Love Sanctuary, but this time slot doesn't work for you, send me an message

Meet the Keeper

Vanessa is a Los Angeles-based artist and recovering hot mess. She's spent a good portion of her life getting in her own way, navigating depression, a complicated relationship with alcohol, and the many creative ways we convince ourselves we're fine when we're anything but.

Along the way, she's learned that …

Reach out to the Keeper: vanessa@totem.org
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