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Adult Children of Narcissistc Parents

Healing Our Wounds

About this Space

Ever felt like your parent's love came with a price tag?

Like your worth depended on how well you played the role he or she cast for you? Growing up with a narcissistic parent meant walking on eggshells, suppressing your own needs, and never quite feeling enough. The damage runs deep, but it’s real, and you don’t have to face it alone.

Children of a narcissistic parent often develop certain thought and behavior patterns as a result of their upbringing

Each week, we will unpack symptoms like fear of abandonment, people-pleasing, and attraction to toxic relationships.

Not every child of a narcissistic parent will experience all of these symptoms, and that’s okay. But seeing how these patterns show up in others’ lives can help us recognize their impact on our own, ultimately reminding us that we are not alone in our experiences.

Prompts for consideration:

  • How did your narcisssitic parent react when you expressed emotions like sadness or anger?

  • What’s something you’ve struggled to believe about yourself because of the your parent treated you?

Interested in the support but can't make this time slot? Send me an email! Happy to find another time together.

vanessa@totem.org

Meet the Keeper

Vanessa is a Los Angeles-based artist and recovering hot mess. She's battled many challenges, from undiagnosed depression to struggling with alcohol abuse, and knows first hand how hard it is to face complex emotions alone.

Through her personal evolution, she's learned how to take action in her life, transforming negative …

Reach out to the Keeper: vanessa@totem.org
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