The holidays are supposed to be a time of togetherness. But what happens when you don't feel like you have somewhere to belong?

It can seem like everyone has plans. Family gatherings, holiday parties, traditions with friends. Meanwhile, your own holiday season might look a little different.

Maybe you're spending the holidays alone. Maybe you're surrounded by people but don't feel particularly connected. Or maybe you're perfectly happy with your plans until you start comparing them to everyone else's.

There's a lot of attention on being together this time of year, which can make loneliness feel even louder.

This Space is for exploring holiday loneliness and the pressure to have plans. Whether your calendar is full or completely empty, there's room for you here.

Vibe: Raw, a little chaotic, validating, messy, and unfiltered.

All of it welcomed — panic, pause, pivots, and the small victories in between. Show up as you are here. No questions, no advice, no judgement.

A Space for exploring the chaotic, exhausting, nonlinear experience of change, survival, and becoming. We hold space for the aftermath of trauma — and just, the ick of life — for uncertain identities, invisible burdens, and the weight of the “in-between.” Here, we honor the messy moments, the stumbles, the hard pivots, and the small victories that don’t follow a script.

🪐 This Space is for you if:

• 🌀 You’re in the messy middle of something and don’t have the words yet
• 🌱 You’re figuring out who you are after survival, loss, burnout, or life upheaval
• 🛤️ You’re tired of advice and coping tips and need space to move through life in your own way, even if it looks different from others
• 🤍 Something inside you is saying it’s OK to be here, even if you’re unsure why

In this Space, we’re not here to fix each other. We’re here to witness, validate, and walk alongside one another in the in-between — honoring panic, pause, pivots, and repeats alike.

💬 Themes we may explore:

• Justice, societal pressures, diversity, equity, inclusion, access and representation
• Embracing and sitting with emotions
• Transitions in family, relationships, identity, careers, hobbies, and values
• Finding your voice, worth, and agency — living for yourself, not comparison
• Navigating spaces that don't see or believe you

☁️ Why this Space matters:

Transitions aren’t tidy. Growth doesn’t follow a straight line. Healing doesn’t happen on schedule. And not everyone gets a clear “before and after.” This Space centers the human experience — raw, real, and unfiltered. Your truth matters. It’s for people who’ve lived through something, are still living through it, or aren’t sure what comes next. Together, we practice naming the hard stuff, honoring rest, leaning into the panic and the pause, and embracing the pivots that keep us moving forward — however slowly.

And here you are, living despite it all.

— Rupi Kaur

• Click here to learn more about what to expect during a Space Session.

• Check out my other Space, Still Sick, Still Here. A Space for folx navigating chronic health, illness, pain, mental health and disabilities.

Questions? claire@totem.org