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The Pressure to Make the Most of the Holidays

Anxiety & the Inner World
with Jesse
Starting Nov 19, 2026 11PM UTC

About this Session

The holidays can come with a surprising amount of pressure to make everything special. We want to see everyone, make memories, enjoy our time off, keep up with traditions, find the perfect gifts, and somehow soak up every bit of holiday magic. With so much anticipation surrounding this time of year, it can start to feel like we're running out of time to make it count or like we're doing the season wrong if it doesn't feel as wonderful as we imagined.

In this session, we'll explore the pressure to make the most of the holidays and where our expectations come from. We'll talk about the fear of missing out, the urge to fit everything in, and how the desire to create meaningful memories can sometimes get in the way of actually enjoying them. Together, we'll reflect on what it means to let go of the idea of a perfect holiday and make room for the moments that unfold naturally.

This session is for you if:

  • You feel pressure to make the holidays magical, memorable, or meaningful
  • You struggle to balance social plans, family obligations, and time for yourself
  • You worry you're not doing enough or aren't enjoying the season as much as you should
  • You find yourself rushing through experiences instead of being present for them
  • You want to enjoy the holidays without turning them into another checklist

You don't have to make every moment count for the season to mean something. Let's explore how to release some of the pressure, be a little kinder to ourselves, and find joy in the holidays as they actually happen. ✨

About this Space

Anxiety & the Inner World is a space for exploring the emotions that live just beneath the surface: the spirals, the “what ifs,” the patterns we inherit, and the fears we carry quietly.

Here, we make room for sitting with the parts of ourselves that panic, overthink, and worry.

This space helps us slow down, notice our inner world without judgment, and build gentler ways of relating to ourselves and others.

How Does it Work?
This is an open, guided discussion led by your Keeper, Jesse. Each participant will have the opportunity to listen to and share experiences on anxiety, well-being, emotions, and whatever else comes up during the session.

When and How Do We Meet?
We meet digitally every couple of weeks to make participation easy for those with demanding schedules. Cameras are optional, and you’re welcome to join from wherever you are, even between shifts. We only ask that you find a private place to join or use headphones to help maintain the security of everyone present.

Meet the Keeper

Jesse

Between Texas and Italy

Hey there! I'm Jesse. My professional background is in communications and advocacy and I'm passionate about making the world a safer, more just place to live in. I've studied and worked across issue areas and organizations.

Originally from Texas, I now live between the U.S. and Italy. Outside of work, …

Reach out to the Keeper: jesse@totem.org
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