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How to Stop People Pleasing

You’re Allowed to Say No

About this Space

Always saying yes, even when you’re drained? Feel responsible for everyone’s happiness but your own?

This support group is for anyone who feels stuck in people-pleasing. We’ll explore where it comes from, how it affects our lives, and what healthier boundaries can look like. No judgment, just honest conversation and support.

Why Join?

  • You’re tired of putting yourself last
  • You want boundaries without guilt
  • You wonder how people-pleasing started for you
  • You want a space where others understand

What We’ll Explore

  • Roots of people-pleasing
  • Guilt, resentment, and burnout
  • Boundaries that feel good
  • Saying “no” with care

🩵 A supportive space for curiosity, storytelling, and growth. 🩵

Meet the Keeper

Vanessa is a Los Angeles-based artist and recovering hot mess. She's battled many challenges, from undiagnosed depression to struggling with alcohol abuse, and knows first hand how hard it is to face complex emotions alone.

Through her personal evolution, she's learned how to take action in her life, transforming negative …

Reach out to the Keeper: vanessa@totem.org
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