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January Check-In

😬 Self-Sabotage
Starting Jan 08, 2026 2AM UTC

About this Session

Our monthly check-in to find out where we continue to sabotage ourselves, and to awcknoledge the moments we've made progress, no matter how small. How has the first week in 2026 treated you?

Come as you are. We're here for it 💛

About this Space

Self-sabotage can feel oddly familiar, like an old pair of shoes that don’t fit but you keep wearing anyway, even though you know there's something better out there.

It sneaks in so quietly that it almost feels familiar. And before we know it trying something new looks like a risk while guilt and shame become the norm.

Sound like you? Yeah, me too.

Lucky for us, others have successfully broken the cycle of self-sabotage.

By becoming more self-aware, identifying our core values, and practicing self-compassion, we too can break the cycle.

If you’ve been through our 6-week Series on self-sabotage—or if you’re just ready to stop tripping over your own expectations—this follow-up support and accountability group is for you. No fluff, no grand promises—just a real space to keep each other honest and on track.

💛 Who is this Space for? 💛

  • Past series members who want to keep the momentum going.
  • Newcomers who don’t mind diving in midstream and being honest about where they’re at.
  • Anyone who’s simply tired of the same old loops and wants a fresh pack of accountability.

Still don't know if this Space is right for you? If these questions hit home, the answer is probably yes.

  • Can you explain your core values to a stranger
  • What set you back this week?
  • When you look back at past projects or goals, what’s the most common point where things tended to unravel?
  • What did success or failure look like in your house growing up?

Need more guidance?
👉Check out our How it Works page!

Curious about what self-sabotage does to our relationships?
👉Check out our article: Is Self Sabotage Ruining Your Relationship? 5 Signs and How to Fix Them

Meet the Keeper

Vanessa is a Los Angeles-based artist and recovering hot mess. She's battled many challenges, from undiagnosed depression to struggling with alcohol abuse, and knows first hand how hard it is to face complex emotions alone.

Through her personal evolution, she's learned how to take action in her life, transforming negative 


Reach out to the Keeper: vanessa@totem.org
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