Between raising happy, healthy kids, keeping up with everyday responsibilities, and trying to create a little holiday magic, motherhood can feel like one long list of things we're supposed to get right.

But where do those expectations come from? Why can one difficult moment make us question everything we're doing right? And how often does the pressure to create a beautiful experience keep us from actually enjoying it?

In this session, we'll explore the many ways perfectionism shows up in motherhood, from comparing ourselves to other parents and questioning our decisions to feeling responsible for making the holidays magical. Together, we'll reflect on the expectations we've inherited, the ones we've created for ourselves, and what it might feel like to let some of them go.

Life is Loud!

Come to a Space where you will be heard.

Feel like your voice is often drowned out? Whether you're an introvert, extrovert, or somewhere in between, you'll find your voice within our community. We welcome mothers of all ages and experiences, creating a Space where every voice matters and every story adds to our collective wisdom.

We are better together!

Low Pressure, Low Commitment.

We know how hard it can be to carve out time for yourself. Join us as you can and as you are. However, due to limited seats, we ask that you try to release your spot at least 12 hours before the session if you can't attend.

Community-Driven Support.

Unlike traditional support groups, our Spaces are not led by professionals but facilitated by trained "Keepers" who ensure everyone has a chance to speak and be heard. We do not give advice, but offer a listening ear and shared experiences.

A Safe and Confidential Environment.

Your safety and confidentiality are our priorities. What's shared in Momma's Space stays in Momma’s Space. Our digital platform is secure, and our community is built on trust and mutual respect.

What We Discuss.

If you're new to support groups, we understand joining a Space might feel intimidating. To ease any anxiety, we always post the discussion topic before sign-up. Don't see a topic that interests you? Email us your suggestions at heather@totem.org.

Who Is This Space For?

This is a Space where we celebrate diversity, inclusion, our children, and each other. Bullying, racism, homophobia, shaming, or forced opinions are not tolerated. This Space is for mothers who want to uplift one another through shared experiences.

When and How do we Meet?

We meet digitally every two weeks, making it easy to fit into your busy schedule. We know finding time for yourself can be tough, so kiddos and breastfeeding are always welcome! We all keep ourselves on mute when not sharing, so no need to worry about distractions!

Don't see a time that fits your schedule? Email heather@totem.org with your availability, and we'll find a time that works for you!

"The human heart was not designed to beat outside the human body and yet, each child represented just that - a parent's heart bared, beating forever outside its chest."

Debra Ginsberg