Getting older can be scary.

There are things we thought we’d have by now. There are things we want that seem to come with a timeline. Finding love. Having children. Feeling financially secure. Having more time with our parents.

Our bodies change, too. We may start thinking differently about fertility. We notice things we didn’t notice before. Sometimes a birthday feels less like a celebration and more like a reminder that another year has passed.

And then there’s the pressure to figure out whether we’re actually running out of time or just living inside timelines we were taught to follow.

This Space is for the fear that can come with getting older. The clocks we feel. The futures we’re afraid we might miss. And what it means to keep building a life while knowing we don’t get unlimited time.

Transition moment: running out of time >> living in the time I have

Vibe: Raw, a little chaotic, validating, messy, and unfiltered.

All of it welcomed — panic, pause, pivots, and the small victories in between. Show up as you are here. No questions, no advice, no judgement.

A Space for exploring the chaotic, exhausting, nonlinear experience of change, survival, and becoming. We hold space for the aftermath of trauma — and just, the ick of life — for uncertain identities, invisible burdens, and the weight of the “in-between.” Here, we honor the messy moments, the stumbles, the hard pivots, and the small victories that don’t follow a script.

🪐 This Space is for you if:

• 🌀 You’re in the messy middle of something and don’t have the words yet
• 🌱 You’re figuring out who you are after survival, loss, burnout, or life upheaval
• 🛤️ You’re tired of advice and coping tips and need space to move through life in your own way, even if it looks different from others
• 🤍 Something inside you is saying it’s OK to be here, even if you’re unsure why

In this Space, we’re not here to fix each other. We’re here to witness, validate, and walk alongside one another in the in-between — honoring panic, pause, pivots, and repeats alike.

💬 Themes we may explore:

• Justice, societal pressures, diversity, equity, inclusion, access and representation
• Embracing and sitting with emotions
• Transitions in family, relationships, identity, careers, hobbies, and values
• Finding your voice, worth, and agency — living for yourself, not comparison
• Navigating spaces that don't see or believe you

☁️ Why this Space matters:

Transitions aren’t tidy. Growth doesn’t follow a straight line. Healing doesn’t happen on schedule. And not everyone gets a clear “before and after.” This Space centers the human experience — raw, real, and unfiltered. Your truth matters. It’s for people who’ve lived through something, are still living through it, or aren’t sure what comes next. Together, we practice naming the hard stuff, honoring rest, leaning into the panic and the pause, and embracing the pivots that keep us moving forward — however slowly.

And here you are, living despite it all.

— Rupi Kaur

• Click here to learn more about what to expect during a Space Session.

• Check out my other Space, Still Sick, Still Here. A Space for folx navigating chronic health, illness, pain, mental health and disabilities.

Questions? claire@totem.org