Family can be one of the places where we most long to feel known, supported, and understood. But family can also be complicated. Sometimes the disappointment comes from distance, whether physical or emotional. Sometimes it comes from being too close, with blurred boundaries, old roles, or expectations that no longer fit. And sometimes it comes from realizing that the people we hoped would show up for us simply cannot, or will not, show up in the ways we need.

In this session, we will explore the tender reality of family disappointment. We will talk about the needs we carry, the boundaries we may be learning to set, and the ways chosen family, friendship, and community can help us feel held when traditional family structures feel complicated.

Life is Loud!

Come to a Space where you will be heard.

Feel like your voice is often drowned out? Whether you're an introvert, extrovert, or somewhere in between, you'll find your voice within our community. We welcome mothers of all ages and experiences, creating a Space where every voice matters and every story adds to our collective wisdom.

We are better together!

Low Pressure, Low Commitment.

We know how hard it can be to carve out time for yourself. Join us as you can and as you are. However, due to limited seats, we ask that you try to release your spot at least 12 hours before the session if you can't attend.

Community-Driven Support.

Unlike traditional support groups, our Spaces are not led by professionals but facilitated by trained "Keepers" who ensure everyone has a chance to speak and be heard. We do not give advice, but offer a listening ear and shared experiences.

A Safe and Confidential Environment.

Your safety and confidentiality are our priorities. What's shared in Momma's Space stays in Momma’s Space. Our digital platform is secure, and our community is built on trust and mutual respect.

What We Discuss.

If you're new to support groups, we understand joining a Space might feel intimidating. To ease any anxiety, we always post the discussion topic before sign-up. Don't see a topic that interests you? Email us your suggestions at heather@totem.org.

Who Is This Space For?

This is a Space where we celebrate diversity, inclusion, our children, and each other. Bullying, racism, homophobia, shaming, or forced opinions are not tolerated. This Space is for mothers who want to uplift one another through shared experiences.

When and How do we Meet?

We meet digitally every two weeks, making it easy to fit into your busy schedule. We know finding time for yourself can be tough, so kiddos and breastfeeding are always welcome! We all keep ourselves on mute when not sharing, so no need to worry about distractions!

Don't see a time that fits your schedule? Email heather@totem.org with your availability, and we'll find a time that works for you!

"The human heart was not designed to beat outside the human body and yet, each child represented just that - a parent's heart bared, beating forever outside its chest."

Debra Ginsberg