Do I Even Want This? Untangling Obligation from Desire
About this Session
This week is about naming the moments we've gone along with sex out of habit, guilt, or duty—not desire.
- What do I think I should be into… that I’m just not?
- When have I said yes when I actually meant “meh” or “no”?
- Is there a sexual experience I’ve never really talked about—even with myself?
🕯️ Bring the tender. The scary. The different. Let's talk about it.
About this Space
Are the scripts we've inherited about sex still serving us?
Maybe they came from our culture. Our parents. Porn.
That one fuckboy who made us think it was love.
Purity culture. TV. Church. Hookup apps. Pain... The list goes on.
Somewhere along the way, sex got tangled up in shame, pressure, confusion, silence—or just plain performance.
We're here to burn that down—gently, and collectively.
You don’t have to have it figured out. You just have to be willing to call BS on what’s not working.
This space is for women-identifying and non-binary people who've ever felt:
💥 Like they were performing sex instead of feeling it
💥 Disconnected from their body, their want, or their “yes”
💥 Pressured to be empowered in a way that felt fake
💥 Afraid to admit they’re healing, shifting, or just not into it right now
💥 Sick of the noise—and ready for something real
Laughter + grief + “WTF was that?” moments are all welcome.
✨ Just come as you are, and leave with something more honest. ✨
Meet the Keeper
Vanessa
Vanessa is a Los Angeles-based musician, writer, and recovering hot mess. She's confronted many challenges, from battling undiagnosed depression, to grappling with identity struggles, and fully acknowledges the difficulty of handling complex emotions alone. Through her journey of self-improvement, she's learned how to take action in her life, turning negative …
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