What if sick people ran the world?

Think about everything it takes to live in a body that doesn't always cooperate. The advocating. The explaining. The loopholes we find. The creativity it takes to get basic shit done. The resilience built through grief, loss, and starting over.

People sometimes assume being sick means being miserable or incapable. Meanwhile, sick folx are out here adapting to a world that often wasn't built with us in mind.

In this Space, we're flipping the script. We'll imagine what could happen if all that resourcefulness, empathy, creativity, and lived experience held more power.

Honestly, how scary would we be? In the coolest way.

Tell a Spoonie. See y'all soon. 🥄

Vibe: Rest without apology. Truth without proof.

This Space is for people living with chronic pain, chronic illness, or the blurry in-between. It’s for when you’re tired of being doubted, tired of being strong, and just… tired. Here, you don’t have to convince anyone of what you live with. You don’t have to downplay it or over-perform to be believed.

🫂 THIS SPACE IS FOR YOU IF:

• You’ve lost jobs, friendships, or parts of yourself to pain or illness.
• You’re managing symptoms and managing the disbelief of others.
• You’re tired of suggestions. You want solidarity, not solutions.
• You want accommodations, and also don’t want to be seen as “less.”
• You say “I’m fine” when you’re not, because it’s easier.
• You follow every health routine—or ignore them—because both are survival.
• You’re stuck between wanting a diagnosis and fearing what it could mean.
• You’re just looking for one hour where you don’t have to pretend you’re OK.

In this Space, we honor boundaries, rest, rage, and contradiction. We don’t require “silver linings” or progress updates. We believe that grief, joy, shame, and relief all have room here.

💬 TOPICS WE MAY EXPLORE:

• Support Without Fixing
• Asking for Accommodations
• Grief for the “Before” Self
• Medical Trauma and Mistrust
• Invisible Illness
• Wellness Culture Disillusionment
• Coping Trade-offs
• Needing a Break From Illness Talk
• Being Seen Fully

💚 WHY THIS SPACE MATTERS:

Living with chronic illness or pain can make the world feel like it’s not built for you. You navigate every day carrying weight others can’t see—constantly adapting, advocating, and enduring. That’s why this Space matters. It gives you permission to just be.

You can join with your camera off, mid-flare, horizontal, silent. You can show up as you are: sick, uncertain, angry, lonely, laughing, grieving. This is your hour to not be productive. To not teach anyone. To not perform wellness. To be more than a diagnosis—and more than a body in pain.

This Space is held twice a month on Tuesday's. Tell a Spoonie. See ya'll soon!

Please reach out to Claire if you need any accomodations to participate in this Space: claire@totem.org.